It takes courage to be yourself in a world where you are constantly told that who you are isn’t enough. — Ash Alves
One of the most common habits of highly successful leaders is that they strive to stay connected to themselves each day. It’s said that Bill Gates reads approximately one book a week and is sincere with taking at least one hour a day to self-reflect. In a world full of distractions, its challenging to maintain that focus in a 5-minute meditation, let alone an hour.
With the remote work culture mixing our work days to off days, it’s no surprise that our energy and resilience is challenged at the end of the day. As I dramatically shut down my laptop screen to mark the end of the work; the deep sigh finishes my breath as if it was stuck for this moment throughout the day.
Only to be engaged with mindless scrolls in my phone moments later. It’s an endless loop and this “winding up” is almost a lie I keep telling myself each day.
A scattered mind is a home to all the worries. I have realized that the lesser we are connected with ourselves, the more impatient we grow. And a more authentic approach towards life prioritizes connection with self before these emotions.
Authenticity is what represents you in a way that’s unique with its own quirks and flaws. Something everyone craves for in a work environment as well as in our relationships.
- Writing — Journaling seems to be a trending word when “self care” and “mental health” comes to our minds. But that habit cleared a lot of misconceptions I had about how to live my life and brought the focus back to myself. It tapped into the trapped emotions and made me realize the beauty that the present moment offers.
- Setting boundaries — With remote work taking up our personal space, the lines between both are blurred. It therefore seems necessary to identify ourselves separate from the work that we do and not get defined by it. Setting clear boundaries like fixing timings of work, having lunch at separate table or creating a night time ritual signals the brain to switch off of the work mode and rest.
- Rearranging phone applications– Mostly when I take a break from work, I glue myself to my phone. This ends up taking all the energy left in me and I fall asleep exhausted and full of guilt. Setting my phone to put productive apps like Kindle right next to my social media helps my brain switch to the latter the more I open my phone, creating a productive routine in the long run.
- Connecting the dots backwards — When we were at our youngest we were not introduced to those negative beliefs like shame, guilt, fear, worry; we were mostly happy or sad. It truly represented our real self. The ideas we had, had the potential to shape the world but the beliefs we caught on our way slowed the process. To regain that connection, its best to think of how you were as a kid and try to get closer to it.
Not forgetting to have fun along the way and valuing the fact that the partnership we have with ourselves is the only lifelong partnership. So, nurturing it with utmost love and care to set forth into becoming the best version of you this year.